An in class essay

If I may be so bold I would like to ask my female readers to please imagine the perfect man, now aside from the idea that he may be well “hung” how does he treat you? Does he always excuse himself whenever you are annoyed with him or when he is being foul? Does he tell you everything that you are to him whenever you need it most? And how about the males, how do we imagine our perfect lady? I can tell you about mine, she’s tall, no taller than me though, and long porcelain legs; soccer player’s thighs, that pleasing to the eye pair shape, a big bright white smile, piercing blue eyes and long dark hair. A woman that very well may exist, but she also in my mind only speaks highly of me all the time, she is willing to have as many kids as it takes to have a male child, and is consumed with the very thought of me. Now if I could talk to the ladies again, how many of you would be that for the man you love? Say he wanted a male child at whatever the cost? You tried and tried but all you guys got were females; 12 girls later are you still willing to go until he is happy? What I’m getting at here is that pornography is a perversion of a real human, to men she is beautiful, and will do anything and everything for him. I don’t want to put words in anyone’s mouth, but I can imagine the female perspective is equally unattainable. Men will not always be the “Prince Charming’s” we see in Hollywood movies, although we may have our moments few and far between, we will never reach that status. And I would like to submit that “porn” has gotten us to that point. Our consumer culture has conditioned us to think that we deserve to have all our desires met and that we are entitled to have the perfect product when we want it. When we approach our intimate relationships with this attitude, we turn relationships into a commodity and stunt our emotional growth.
According to Dr. Judith Reisman, pornography affects the physical structure of your brain turning you into a porno-zombie. The affect it has may feel positive at the time because you are getting what you want, and in the American society we are always used to getting what we want and when we want it. But did it ever occur to us that maybe instead of indulging in our wants; we abstain from whatever sycophantic desires we have about sex and pleasure and deal with the source of the issue. Which for every one may be different, mine personally is that I cannot deal with the idea of being alone, and maybe at the root of the problem of most people that is their fear. Everyone may be afraid to be alone the rest of their life because they know just how sick they are and would either feel burdensome to their life mate or undeserving of their “true love”.
This country is now at a fifty percent divorce rate; that means half of marriages today are ending in divorce. What bring us to this point? Infidelity? Marring young? hatred of the In-laws? Infidelity is not a proven factor in any divorce rate statistic only that marriages that do experience “cheating” for the most part end in divorce. But the surveys that have take place have shown that it is a leading factor in why divorce rate have gone up. I would submit that in our society where we are so prone to getting what we want that it has stunned our growth both as people and as genders. Porn for one stimulates yourself and what you want. And teaches you no value of pleasing anyone else; we are constantly teaching ourselves to “love” ourselves and no one else.
Women, don’t think you are exempt from this destructive force of pornography, from attending a debate between a porn star and a Pastor, I learned that women watch porn too, and at just the same rate as any two males. Granted that is half, but that is just the act of sexual intercourse online. I could, at great protest, submit that the “chick flick” is another version of porn for women. If we think about it what impression are we always left with about the men in a chick flick? He never farts, never poops, never has a flaw in his perfect persona, though in the Hollywood movie it is well know that the plot line for such movies is: girl finds boy, boy loses girl, they resolve and the movie concludes. Aside from that fact we never see how flawed this man is; we are lead to believe that his every thought is for the sake of her good, that he is a gentleman to her in front of his friends. However romantic that thought may be, that is just not the case. He has a functioning body, so to believe that he will always be able to hold his gas is an impossible fact, although I do agree that if he can, he should.
We see and hear in our media today everything, but what is really stated about sex. How much fun it is and how pleasuring the sensations are, but do we ever see the minute problems that sex brings out in us. The detachment from reality that pornography alone brings out in just the male gender of this species is scary even to think about. To state the obvious men tend to view women as pieces of meat rather than living, breathing, and all together vibrant beings that they truly are. And at the opposite end of the spectrum women seem to view themselves as less and less “attractive” because of these minute detachment issues that men deal with because of the affect of “Playboy” magazine and pornography. We no longer have to listen to anything a women says in a magazine we must only oogle her until we find it satisfactory enough to move onto the next page. And we only have to hear a woman say, “fuck me daddy” or some other vulgar premeditated insult or “sex banter” when watching the pornography so easily distributed on the internet.
Something must be done about our apatite’s. Diets have been invented for the physical body. A diet for the mind and a cleansing of the human soul is what is needed. I know from sitting in on that debate between porn star Ron Jeremy and the founder of xxxchurch.com that steps could be taken to set apart a server for porn. It may not prove the most effective diet, but the separate server would also protect future generations from becoming “porno-zombies”. The server would be age restricted, and just like we pay for our Comcast cable internet service we would purchase this internet provider and be able to view porn and maybe it would even keep us from watching it too much, when we have to pay for internet and for our porn server people would be irritated at paying more, but to save a future generation from being even worse off than the current one is worth it.

~ by oohryuhh on March 19, 2009.